I love you!

An opinion is a person's ideas and thoughts towards something which it is either impossible to verify the truth of, or the truth of which is thought unimportant to the person. It is an assertion about something especially if that something lies in the future and its truth or falsity cannot be directly established e.g. induction. An opinion is not a fact, because opinions are either not falsifiable, or the opinion has not been proven or verified. If it later becomes proven or verified, it is no longer an opinion, but a fact.

Opinions. We are all entitled to them, but should someone be judged by them? It seems that lately CSP and I tend to get very defensive when we express our opinions, but the one that is really bothering me is “living today like it’s my last”. What happens if there is no tomorrow, will your son know that you loved him, will your mom know that you miss her? What if you went to bed angry last night and didn’t say I love you and I am happy with you, and never got the chance to make things better? What if you didn’t get to say your last goodbye because you “weren’t talking”? Is it just me or do others think this way? Am I being negative, but then again can an opinion be wrong if it isn’t a fact? Why does it take something as tragic as death to make us want to live life to the fullest? I say, dont wait!

CSP seems to think that is just me thinking negative, like I want it to happen. ARE YOU KIDDING ME, I AM TOO YOUNG TO DIE! But, heaven forbid, I would want to go out knowing I said I love you to Travis, or I love you to CSP. I don’t want to live my life with regrets, but every time I try to get CSP to see it my way we fight. It drives me crazy that he can go to bed mad at someone, or leave the house frustrated. CSP tends to think “there is always tomorrow”. Ok to some extend will I agree with that but for instances like loading the dishwasher, making the bed or mopping the floors, but not making your loved ones feel special. Now I will admit I am the biggest hypocrite when it comes to acting on my opinions. I can’t remember the last time I called my mom just to say hi and I love you. I can’t remember the last time I just sat there with CSP and said I love you. Maybe it is because as an adult and mother I have different priorities? But I do make sure that I let Travis know. Possibly I feel that my parents already know I love them, and possibly I feel that CSP knows I love him, but I want to make sure that Travis absolutely knows. But I promise you all, I will make sure that I take a little more time out of my life to make sure you know I care about you and I am thinking about you.

I don’t normally express my opinions, unless it’s about music, food or movies… but when it comes to life this is probably my biggest one. This is the only thing that I will ever ask any of you to take into account into your daily lives and to really think about… do you value the present? I do.

"We don’t value the present. Think about it — if you had ten minutes to live wouldn’t you rather remember the positive things that happened to you

Think of death every day. Yes, you heard right. Think of death everyday. That is the only way you will value what you have today. You will treasure the little moments that pass you by without taking it for granted. Death is not a negative reality. See it as a positive one. We all have limited time left. Everyday, we get closer to the grave. This grim reality should actually be driving us to live a fuller life, a happier life. Every moment that goes by is lost. Forever.

Suppose you were told that you have just ten minutes to live. What images will come to your mind? Will bitterness, anger, and jealousy dominate the next ten minutes? Will you think about absolutely useless arguments you had with a relative? Will you remember all the stupid inanities that you went through?

No one would if they had only ten more minutes to live.

In those ten minutes you will allow the best images to go past. You will not think of the material goods you have collected, nor the bank balance you have. You will not waste time thinking of those who hurt you, or were unfair. Instead, you will see images of the best moments of your life, your loved ones, touching moments, rich colorful experiences, laurels you got and the hurdles you surmounted.

As you realize that you have just ten minutes left, you will smile from deep within. There is so much to be grateful for. And there are so many experiences you want to relive all over again — experiences you never ever cared to remember before as you took life for granted.

It takes the reality of death at the doorstep to realize that we are blessed. Life has showered each one of us with so much richness, but we do not see it.

Many of us fear death. But can we stop death? Can we delay it according to our will? That is why it is silly to worry about something we have no control over. Instead, let us celebrate life. Living is a process of dying, said Krishnamurthi, a philosopher. He talks about how birds in the early morning chatter away merrily without worrying about whether they are going to die the next morning.

So, live as if today is the last day. Dance. Sing. Watch the raindrops on a petal. Enjoy the aroma of wet mud. Hear the birds talk. Listen to the rustle of the leaves as the wind whistles past. Give something to someone without wanting anything in return. Give to someone who cannot even return the grace. Surprise yourself by doing something out of the way. Stop being so boring and predictable and instead do something that makes your heart sing.

Do not worry about what others around you will think or say. Remember that it does not matter. What matters is how you feel. We all need to value the moment now."
-Ramesh Menon-


"Life is too short to wake up inthe morning with regrets, so lovethe people who treat you right,forget about the ones who don't,and believe that everythinghappens for a reason. If you get achance, take it. If it changesyour life, let it. Nobody saidlife would be easy, they justpromised it would be worth it."